If you’re autistic and need advice on working shitty food service or retail jobs, I’m your man

seriously I’ve had most of them and can probably give you a fair idea of what to expect, esp. if it’s your first job. I have sensory issues out the ass and had some pretty fucking severe social problems until I was about 15…moderate social problems between 25-30. Dyspraxia, prosopagnosia (that’s a fucking doozie for retail, let me tell ya), and intermittent visual agnosia and loss of speech.

For additional flavor, I also have anxiety and panic disorder, PTSD, depression, and agoraphobia so bad I was a shut-in for between 5 and 8 years.

So if you need tips on how to smile at strangers when triggered and depersonalizing, or how to run a cash register when you can’t read the keys, please feel free to ask.

This also applies to people recently getting out of an abusive situation, maybe homeless, underage, or otherwise discommoded. I also am slightly conversant with the labor laws of a handful of states, OSHA and EEOC guidelines, FMLA law, and a smattering of ADA.

I like to put this out there from time to time because there’s a lack of specific, realistic information out there for people who are “in the shit”, so to speak. Also, I mutually follow quite a few autistic people who are currently working retail and/or food service with same/similar issues.

artsieaspie:

As requested, I’ve done up some different versions of the autism advocacy graphics I posted this morning, using a more readable font and layout.  I’ve also made black-on-white, white-on-black and pastel versions, for anyone who finds the bright colours of the originals disagree with them.  (Which I didn’t think about until I saw someone  tagged them with a headache warning - sorry about that!)  Rather than post a dozen very long images and clog up everyone’s dashboard, here is a link to a photobucket album where you can go and grab whichever ones you want.  They’re designed with Pinterest in mind, but feel free to use them however you please.  No credit necessary - they’re public domain.

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Okay, if I could just take this time to share a few words of sarcasm with whoever it is that took this pen.

*tears of autistic joy flowing freely*

This will always be my favorite Autistic TV character of all time, perhaps in ANY form of media, ever. Abed Nadir will be my media patronus forever and ever until the end of time, no matter what happens with the most recent season of the show.

From the same episode:

"I hate ‘bottle episodes’. They’re wall-to-wall facial expressions and emotional nuance. I might as well sit in the corner with a bucket on my head.”

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depechem0de-deactivated9873-dea asked: Oh and as a side note I love your blog :-). I just wanted to offer some insight. I don't want people to be scared by ADD medication. It is perfectly safe so long as you take it as the doctor prescribed it and make sure you eat enough. I just shied away from it for many years, and if I had had it earlier, my life would have been way better than it ended up being. It can also help with depression by correcting dopamine deficiencies. Dopamine is as important as seratonin. It is no magic cure though

I agree with you, and fully support the use of medication by people who need it.Many people have Autism AND ADD/ADHD. Sometimes ADD medication help people with ASDs regulate their attention.

Telling someone you don’t know that a specific medication will fix all their problems and turn their life around is dangerous and misleading.

OKAY.

I usually don’t do shit like this, but the blog autism-and-aspergers-advice is problematic to say the least.

This person is investing themselves with the authority to do and say some fucking SCARY shit, which someone else actually brought to my attention[includes screenshot]:

Telling an Autistic person to ask their doctor for ADD medication like “adderall and Ritalin” which will “fix all of their problems”

Telling an Autistic person to “learn to put up with” repeated sexual boundary violations from their significant other, because they [autism-and-asperger-advice] “forced themselves to like it” and it would “mean a lot to her if you tried”


saying “you can’t make a hoe a housewife, great rule of thumb” as DATING ADVICE,Saying there are “5 different types of Autism of the Spectrum”, which is weird and misleading at best

Telling an Autistic person to say to the person they like, “ask him what it will take to make him believe it”

they claim to “be the voice for people who can’t speak for themselves”

they called me a stupid bitch when I called them out on claiming to speak for other autistics, as well as failing at considering some autistics aren’t white guys

It’s one thing to have a blog and say whatever the fuck you want. It’s ANOTHER thing entirely to claim to speak for other autistic people, and run a blog SPECIFICALLY giving advice to/for Autistic people that is EXTREMELY PROBLEMATIC.

Telling Autistic people to ask their doctors for dangerous medication that there is NO EVIDENCE THEY NEED and may even be contraindicated is dangerous, telling people they need to “learn to put up with/like” sexual advances they DO NOT WANT IS DANGEROUS, and spreading misogyny like “you can’t make a hoe a housewife” Is DANGEROUS.

I’m not saying what anyone else should or should be doing; I DO have a huge problem with someone claiming authority.

They can run their personal blog and their advice blog however they see fit, but I feel a responsibility to let people know that although this person is autistic, their advice does not reflect the opinions OR experiences of many, many autistic people, he does not speak FOR autistic people, and that his advice is not the greatest and is sometimes dangerous and/or harmful.

tal9000:

girljanitor:

girljanitor:

what the fuck is this pile of garbage?

why is it in the “actuallyautistic” tag?

No fucking seriously what is this shit and why am i looking at it

I don’t go into the “autism” tag so i don’t have to fucking SEE SHIT LIKE THIS

SOME FUCKING “AUTISM MOM” being all like, “Amanda Baggs and Tracy Thresher aren’t REAL r******s like MY SON who’s violent and unmanageable and horrible SO THEIR DIAGNOSIS MUST BE FAAAAAKE and they’re not REALLY LOW FUNCTIONING LIKE MY VIOLENT, R******D AUTISTIC SON WHO’LL NEVER BE ANYTHING WITHOUT BILLIONS OF DOLLARS OF MEDICAL EXPERIMENTATION and those faking fakers are MISREPRESENTING AUTISM WITH THEIR NEURODIVERSITY NS TAKING AWAY THE MONEY FOR MY USELESS SON’S ELECTRIC SHOCKSSSSS”

Like this shit is fucking triggering

put some fucking trigger warnings on this shit

why do i even see this shit

I DO NOT WANT TO SEE THIS SHIT OKAY

I clicked though.

Why did I do that?

They accused Amanda Baggs of faking. Really.

Apparently that’s the new thing in allistic parent circles. Accusing her specifically of faking because she doesn’t make sense to them. Because being very good at something and then burning out hard is “clinically unprecedented” (nevermind that that’s the past few years of my life, although I never burned out nearly as hard as Amanda did)

Earlier today I reblogged a thing about the writer’s experiences being written off by their classmates in school as a “r——d” and having this follow them, for problems I shared with them. I may have escaped most of that (through being homeschooled until I was more passable) but that’s really all it is. There wasn’t any difference in childhood functioning between me and people who got labelled like that.

[tw: abuse]

Like, I can’t even deal at all. That poor little boy who’s her son. anytime some fucking autism parent starts going on about “NOT LIKE MY KID BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT VIOLENT”

I think what are they doing

WHAT ARE THEY DOING TO THAT CHILD THAT THEY’RE SO VIOLENT

I WASN’T ALLOWED TO HAVE BOUNDARIES AS A CHILD

NO MATTER WHAT I JUST “HAD TO PUT UP WITH IT”

I HAD TO DO EVERYTHING ANYWAY NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT BOTHERED ME

I GOT ABUSED BY A TEACHER FOR NEARLY A YEAR AND MY MOM HAD THE GALL TO ASK “WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ANYONE”

GEE I DON’T KNOW MOM MAYBE BECAUSE EVERY TIME I TOLD YOU SOMETHING HURT OR I DIDN’T LIKE IT YOU TOLD ME I HAD TO DO IT ANYWAYS AND WHAT I WANTED DIDN’T MATTER

SO WHY WAS THAT ANY DIFFERENT

i don’t know there are times when i think my life would have been better if I’d been violent but instead i just freeze and shut down

(Source: valeeetudo)

girljanitor:

what the fuck is this pile of garbage?

why is it in the “actuallyautistic” tag?

No fucking seriously what is this shit and why am i looking at it

I don’t go into the “autism” tag so i don’t have to fucking SEE SHIT LIKE THIS

SOME FUCKING “AUTISM MOM” being all like, “Amanda Baggs and Tracy Thresher aren’t REAL r******s like MY SON who’s violent and unmanageable and horrible SO THEIR DIAGNOSIS MUST BE FAAAAAKE and they’re not REALLY LOW FUNCTIONING LIKE MY VIOLENT, R******D AUTISTIC SON WHO’LL NEVER BE ANYTHING WITHOUT BILLIONS OF DOLLARS OF MEDICAL EXPERIMENTATION and those faking fakers are MISREPRESENTING AUTISM WITH THEIR NEURODIVERSITY NS TAKING AWAY THE MONEY FOR MY USELESS SON’S ELECTRIC SHOCKSSSSS”

Like this shit is fucking triggering

put some fucking trigger warnings on this shit

why do i even see this shit

I DO NOT WANT TO SEE THIS SHIT OKAY

(Source: valeeetudo)

what the fuck is this pile of garbage?

why is it in the “actuallyautistic” tag?

(Source: valeeetudo)

To the people that despise those that self diagnose autism.

lryl:

telephonoscope:

Imagine you’re almost 30 and your history is steeped in nothing but dropping out of highschool, dropping out of college/university 4 different times, no friends, a string of jobs that you’ve quit or been fired from, depression, panic disorder, and horrible confusion about WHY all of this has happened to you. You’re smart and you’re a hard worker. In fact you work harder than everyone you know and yet life is still really. fucking. hard.

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I am, for the moment self diagnosed. I am on an indefinite waitlist with the county to receive a formal diagnosis. I have been diagnosed bipolar, borderline, and ocd because women “don’t have spectrum disorders”. I would almost be willing to put money that some, if not all of those diagnoses would change or be removed in the face of a spectrum diagnosis. I’m waiting, and will continue to wait, for someone paid to evaluate the same criterion I’ve already examined to put down on paper that I’m autistic. Until then, I am self diagnosed. I am still me, I just now understand myself in ways I didn’t before.

I had six or seven diagnoses before ASD dx. Just about all of them were symptomatic of undiagnosed spectrum disorder. the depression, anxiety, and PTSD are pretty much gonna be there forever now, though.

(via azrikel)

To the people that despise those that self diagnose autism.

telephonoscope:

Imagine you’re almost 30 and your history is steeped in nothing but dropping out of highschool, dropping out of college/university 4 different times, no friends, a string of jobs that you’ve quit or been fired from, depression, panic disorder, and horrible confusion about WHY all of this has happened to you. You’re smart and you’re a hard worker. In fact you work harder than everyone you know and yet life is still really. fucking. hard.

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