There have been times in my life when I considered myself a feminist. I’ve been reading feminist literature since I was 11, and spent a good portion of my early teens and later stretches in my life in activist spaces, and over the years have come to reject just about every form of what is called “feminism”, because feminism was and is built to serve oppressive structures rather than dismantle them. It’s been a while since I’ve posted about it, so I suppose some of my followers are not getting the 100-level critiques of feminism that I’ve attempted to boil down into the following six points.
Appropriates from and erases women of color. For example, it’s common practice to grab a statistic about violence against women that only applies to women of color, paste it into a picture of a white woman, and when women of color protest, use words like “solidarity!” to silence them.
Creates a hierarchy of women according to ability. For example, it’s common to see Feminists sympathizing with caretakers and mothers who murder their disabled charges, even when both are women. Disabled women are erased and ignored by feminism, and it’s not uncommon to see “preventing disability” used as some kind of wedge to support abortion rights. “Racial purity” and Eugenics have been used by white feminists as a way to elicit support for birth control and abortion for centuries. Disabled women fail to meet the criteria of “real” women according to most feminists, and mostly serve as foils to feminist constructions of womanhood, rather than examples of it.
Homogenizes history to normalize a Eurocentric, Imperialist agenda. Liberal Feminism as well as Radical Feminism both ascribe to the tenet that “all women in the world are oppressed by men and always have been.” This is factually inaccurate and not only erases the First Wave feminists’ getting the idea for “feminism” from Iroquois women in the first place, it imposes a universal standard of European patriarchy as a starting point in many cases where it is completely irrelevant and benefits no one except white women. Feminism also has a long and storied history of colonizing behavior such as missionary work, religious conversion, and uplifting white womanhood as a “savior” at the expense of people of color.
Excludes and perpetrates violence against transgender women. Even branches of feminism that do not outright call for the extermination of transgender women exclude them from ‘women only’ spaces, deny them resources like space in shelters, and in many other ways actively participate in their marginalization, abuse, and deaths.
Promotes biological essentialism and polices women’s bodies. I honestly do not see a difference in the debates between feminists on whether or not a woman should shave her legs and the same dang discussion between men. The idea that a small group of privileged women should decide what women are and aren’t allowed to do with their bodies is no more appealing or “liberating” than a small group of privileged men deciding the same. Replicating patriarchy and enforcing kyriarchy by seeking to replace men as the gatekeepers of women’s bodies, sexualities, genders and activities is bullshit and helps no one.
Replaces inherent value of human beings with Capitalism. Feminism is just as guilty of devaluing “women’s work” as any patriarchal government or social structure; engaging in unpaid labor is seen as “unfeminist” and a moral failure on the part of women. The association of inherent worth with economic production is interlaced into the entire structure of feminism, and as a movement, feminism seems incapable of separating the two ideas. Harnessing the power of women as a labor force in order to “prove” their worth is a function of patriarchy and does nothing to undermine its functioning. Feminism is absolutely as guilty of equating “morally right” with “financially successful” as any other institution of our society.
Great post, sums up a lot of my reservations about feminism.
I’d also like to add that feminism, especially sex-positive feminism, does not address the concerns of celibate, asexual, and/or sex-repulsed women very well. Liberated female sexuality is often equated with being sexually active; if you do not like or want sex, then you are told that you are doing it wrong, are repressed by the patriarchy, are oppressed by your religion, or that you are otherwise a victim who needs help in order to realize her full sexuality. Sexual liberation is generally presented as the ability to say “yes” without being shamed; but the equally important ability to say “no” is usually forgotten, or shunted off into a separate discussion about rape culture. And asexual-spectrum women are frequently targeted by acephobia, ableism, and rape culture even from other women who consider themselves feminist.
As an asexual, celibate, sex-repulsed, partly-female person, feminism tells me that my sexuality is incomplete, unhealthy, repressed, or otherwise not good enough because I do not fit the archetype of a woman who wants and enjoys sex.
I still call myself an “intersectional feminist,” for lack of a better phrase when communicating my views to other people, but the movement’s got problems.
I could write a damn thesis on the intersection of sex-positivity and compulsory sexuality.
I could write a thesis on the intersection of sex positivity and hypersexualization of women of color…and another on certain schools of feminism’s demonization of sex workers that shits on WOC, and a third on the counter-movement of sex worker positivity and the subsequent erasure of sexual exploitation and forced prostitution that also shits on WOC….
Let’s just say there are far too many “movements” acting like they’re operating in a void and are allergic to intersectionality. It’s downright grotesque.
god damnit just when I had some tiny amount of faith in Reddit the fedora crew comes out of hiding againEh, it’s really just all the people I have blocked on tumblr wanking each other with all the “bad words” they’re “not allowed” to use on tumblr (lol), with all the finesse of five year olds crouched behind a fence whispering “Shitfuck!” to each other.
Anonymous asked: Bahahahahah, you have self diagnosed autism? That is too great. My sister, who has Aspergers, said you're a fucking idiot.
It looks like you’ve self dxed as a real person with an autistic sister, anon.
Sorry, unless you can verify that you are officially a real person, with a real sister who actually is autistic, you’re invalid and everything you say is invalid.
You’ll need a doctor’s note and verification from a real tumblr account to confirm your diagnosis. Otherwise you aren’t a real person. Also your sister must be confirmed as existing too, otherwise she’s not a real person either.
Please submit all of your evidence to my box if you have it
BBBBWWWWWAAAA HA HA HA HA HA HA
*dies of irony*
not gonna lie, i kinda dislike those posts that state “you always have the option to say no!” because there’s so many times where i really, really don’t have that option.
- that time i was too medicated to speak, yet someone was touching me?
- working retail jobs means doing whatever the fuck you’re told regardless of sick/disabled you are.
- Being asked to cover a shift at a job where you’re competing to stay on after the holiday season.
and these are just a few examples
i’d rather we focus on creating systems and infrastructure
so that the statement is actually true for everyone
My mind is still thinking on this
because the logic of it all is also warped and seems to invoke a strange kind of victim blaming.
"you can always say no" unless you can’t
and then what?
how does this help people assaulted while inebriated? or have communication issues? people who don’t actually understand that ‘no’ actually is something they can say?
as always, the problem isn’t whether or not people are saying no or otherwise enforcing their boundaries
but that there are people who are 100% willing to violate said boundaries even if you say no.
It is about the fact that there are some things that should never even happen in the first place, such that a ‘no’ is required. things like unwanted touching. what people need to know and understand is not that the can say no (obvs. they can, if able) but that they shouldn’t need to. People shouldn’t be touching you without consent. And the absence of a ‘no’ or ‘yes’ expressed in whatever fashion, is not consent.
what we need is a social system where no one feels entitled to another person’s body or to violate their autonomy.
anyway. essentially: bruja-luna is 10830982323% right about this
me: *finally can afford & gets that paper diagnosis for that thing I already knew I had* Paper Dx’ers: Welcome to the club! I hate those self-Dx’ers! me: I have a paper Dx for you. Treatment: find the nearest fire, or stop being an oppressive asshole
yes this is literally what happened when i got a paper dx.
that and the $1000+ i’m never going to be able to pay
Anonymous asked: Ok, so youre not actually autistic then?
Lol apparently. See, when a doctor diagnoses you, it magically makes you have whatever disorder you’re diagnosed with.
No one ever has the disorder until they’re diagnosed. It just magically appears. Doctors are magic ok. Magic.
Or it could be because said doctor has had years of extensive training so that they can recognize and understand these diagnoses better than the average person.
It’s not about the disorder, it’s about receiving the proper diagnoses for it. And the person who can best give you that diagnoses is a professional.
I s2g I cannot stand people who self-diagnose.
Yeah, because if my foot gets cut off, I don’t know it’s a problem until I see a doctor, right?
I don’t think “hmm, this seems to be a problem, I should go see a doctor” in the first place
And if I don’t have the money or access to a doctor, well, my missing foot just isn’t a problem ever
not unless a doctor finds me and says “oh hey did you know your foot got cut off?”
EVERY PAPER DIAGNOSIS CONTAINS AN ELEMENT OF SELF-DIAGNOSIS BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO KNOW THERE’S A PROBLEM BEFORE YOU GO AND SEE A FUCKING DOCTOR.
Seriously, you’re both garbage. I self-diagnosed and was DENIED PAPER DIAGNOSIS FOR YEARS BECAUSE OF
1. MY AGE
2. MY GENDER
3. MY FINANCIAL STATUS
4. THAT FACT THAT I HAD OTHER DIAGNOSES
5. THE INCREDIBLE FUCKING IGNORANCE OF THE “MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS” I WAS TALKING TO, INCLUDING SEVERAL WHO TOLD ME “AUTISTIC PEOPLE ARE RETARDED AND CAN’T TALK SO YOU’RE NOT AUTISTIC”
NOT TO MENTION HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE DENIED DIAGNOSIS BECAUSE OF OTHER FACTOR LIKE RACE, SEXUAL ORIENTATION, ET CETERA
OR THE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WANT DIAGNOSIS BECAUSE OF OTHER FACTORS SUCH AS WANTING TO HAVE KIDS, THEIR PROFESSION, OR A MILLION OTHER FUCKING REASONS
DX-SHAMERS CAN GO EAT A BOWL OF DICKS
You’re garbage, and people like you are why people like me aren’t taken seriously by the general public.
There is a huge fucking difference between getting your foot chopped and having a mental disorder.
Mental disorders are complicated things that often have overlapping symptoms with other disorders. Sometimes biological factors in other parts of the body are affecting the brain, rather than the brain just having chemical imbalances. Psychiatrists go to school for years studying, researching, learning about these disorders.
You will not have a firm grasp on any disorder just by reading the Wikipedia page. Hell, if you go take those “self-diagnosis” tests on the internet, I guarantee you all of them will say “Please consult with a licensed doctor as this test cannot properly diagnose you.”
Mental health is not a goddamn joke. It’s a serious fucking thing that affects millions of people. I’m tired of people like you taking it lightly.
Shamers? Well, you should feel ashamed of yourself.
It must be nice to have been diagnosed by the godlike hand of SCIENCE ITSELF, so pure and unbiased like the very light of the heavens shining down upon you.
I got diagnosed by a gaslighting white woman who immediately recognized that i was autistic, but sucked at absolutely everything else.
If I could go back, I’m not too sure I would bother getting a paper diagnosis.
You think people like me are why “they” don’t take you seriously?
The sad part is, I’m one of the people out here fighting for YOUR rights. I’ve gotten up in front of crowds of professors and faculty at colleges and tried to educate them on how to deal with students who have depression and anxiety in classrooms. I work in Disability Services at a college, and I help and advise mentally ill, physically disabled, and developmentally disabled colleges students for a living. I’m founding a chapter of a national disability rights group in this town, because I believe that strongly that all people have a right to community support.
I’ve been the recipient of “mental health treatment” since I was 12 years old, almost three quarters of my life.
And I will tell you right now, the only thing that will make people “take you seriously” is advocacy, education, fighting for our right and *GASP* SOLIDARITY WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT HAVE THE SAME ACCESS TO RESOURCES THAT YOU DO.
NEWS FLASH: psychiatrists and psychologists “go to school for years studying, researching, learning, about these disorders” and they’re the same shitty people they were when they started.
If you really want to be respected and free of social violence directed at the disabled and mentally ill, STOP PUNCHING DOWN AND START LOOKING UP AT THE BOOT THAT’S ON YOUR NECK.