silversarcasm:

how can you not see ableism as a feminist issue

autistic girls, especially black autistic girls, are misdiagnosed and underdiagnosed because of the focus on white cis boys and how they present as autistic

disabled girls and women often have their consent violated, both in medical procedures and otherwise, our bodies and minds are often not considered are own and we are dismissed as not having the capacity to make our own decisions

on top of that many disabled girls are seen as delusional and their speaking out about the abuse they have face, by whatever communication method, is often seen as them making things up and over reacting

many disabled women are fetishised and seen as an outrageous ‘thing’ to fuck, but are not seen as human

disabled girls, especially physically disabled girls, do not live up to ideas of beauty in our society and often have extreme self esteem issues

disabled women and girls face more shit than you could ever know and I need you to understand

Ableism. Is. A. Feminist. Issue.

Yeah, unfortunately most feminists sympathize with our murderers more than they do with us.

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popculturebrain:

policymic:

Beyonce pens equality essay, proves she’s the woman’s studies professor you wish you had

Just when you thought your one-sided relationship with her couldn’t get any better, Beyoncé wrote a feminist essay entitled, “Gender Equality is a Myth.” If this makes you want to go back to school and write about the movement that will ultimately be known as Beyoncism, “the interdisciplinary study of how to make feminism the coolest thing ever,” you are not alone.

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Yuss.

a-christmas-cruella:

I’m not feminist or anti-feminist.  I’m me, a disabled family-focused career woman and mother of many.  People have been insisting I am or should be this or that all my life, and I don’t belong to any of these women’s groups completely.  But I am a woman, partly out of defiance.  I’ve been and no doubt will always be made by enough people that it hurts to feel like I’m a lesser as a woman and not good enough as a woman.  Disabled and mentally ill women are seen as burdensome by feminist and anti-feminist women alike, as I’ve experienced firsthand.  Screw you, I’m so glad I’m a woman and you can’t take that from me.  My imperfections can’t take that from me.  My life choices are mine, looking out for the best interests of my family, and sure, being selfish enough to want it all.  Selfishness is only bad if it’s harmful. 

Sometimes I feel like Dad and like my husband is Mom.  Oh well.  I’m Mom.  And I’m just me.  I didn’t ask to be born political in any way, and I was born political in several ways.  So cherry-pick my words and my choices out of context for calling me what you will, but these are also my words and what I hope has been obvious.

You’ve been dropping some heavy truths, I see.

Not really surprised to see blowback to that, as someone who’s had a roomful of Feminists call them a “forced birther” for refusing to accept that preventing disability via eugenic abortion is Women’s Moral Imperative. (all capitalization there pretty much verbatim and intended.)

And of course, there’s the ever-present conflation of “human worth” with “ability to produce and spend money” that most forms of feminism ascribe to pretty damn heavily. The bottom line is, Feminism as a whole has basically replicated existing oppressive structures with itself in pretty much every concrete way.

Some of us were born to be henpecked by society for existing, and any refusal to apologize for that existence, to live inside an apology for our existence, is framed as some kind of threat.

And I honestly hope it is.

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It really does frighten me to hear activists ask me, “Well, once our fight is over and we’ve succeeded, what is there? What does it look like? What do we have when oppression is over?”

casanova-frankensteins-monster:

girljanitor:

It’s a question I was first asked by a very famous activist at an engagement about two years ago, and it legitimately dropped my jaw.

It still shocks me to my core.

Have the people leading these movements internalized constant dehumanization, being impeded at every step, and confused fighting for existence with fighting as existence to that degree?

Disability without ableism looks like me placing objects gently, quietly, in a line on a flat surface.

Queerness without heterosexism looks like the smell of my lover’s face when they wake up in the morning.

Femme without patriarchy looks like the sensation of touching soft satin with soft fingers.

Being a person of color without white supremacy looks like learning while watching a wrinkled brown hand measure seasoning in its folds.

What do we have? We have ourselves. We have our lives. We have beauty and love and family and friends and songs and food and cats and stories and history and calm interiors and raucous exteriors and vice versa and both and everything at once.

Have we become so divorced from ourselves that these questions are necessary?

Our lives are stories and we are telling them right now.

These facts about ourselves are inseparable from our experiences. Don’t get so lost in philosophy that you forget your humanity, or other people’s.

i feel like a lot of people who ask these “what then?” questions are still operating under a capitalist/colonialist mindset, as in “how can i profit off this magical future in which everyone is liberated and equal?” (profit being whatever the individual in question defines it as) when the reality of it is that there will be no “profit”. there will simply be existence. but we as a species haven’t had a very good track record when it comes to leveling the playing field, which is why some people can’t fathom this, despite the fact that the activism in which they partake is a means to this end that they apparently know nothing of.

the reality of achieving the ultimate goal of activism is that there is no “next level”. there’s no new save file where you can fight the good fight all over again, let alone start over with recycled stats from your previous playthrough. if video games were more realistic, i highly doubt any of the characters would want to go through all that fighting all over again. so, why should we have to in the real world?

also, these “what then?” questions do nothing but tell me that, despite our efforts and despite what we tell ourselves, we (as an activist community) still believe deep down that our worth is tied to our efforts.

who gives a shit what identities will look like outside the framework of oppressive systems? because if it weren’t for oppressive systems, we wouldn’t be having this discussion. femininity was there before the patriarchy framed the label and decided that it was a bad thing. smashing the patriarchy won’t result in total abolition of the terminology and everything it entails, it would just make femininity a valid identity to have. that’s fucking it, and the same goes for everything else.

human beings have been using terminology to describe ourselves since the conception of language and i don’t think these terms that we have been given/given ourselves are going to just disappear or lose their importance once the sky opens up. there is already a long history associated with these terms and just throwing them out the window when our work is done seems counterproductive and downright disrespectful to everyone who sacrificed themselves for a noble cause.

it’s in our nature to stand out and be our own individuals in our own ways so i really don’t know why “what is x without y?” is even a fucking question—because i thought the humanity of x is what we were fighting for, not whether or not they’ll still be valid identities after y is gone.

the thing about linear equations is that x can live independently of y, whereas y needs another variable to function correctly.

(this has been sitting in my drafts for a while so i apologize for being late to the party)

No that’s fine actually because this convo doesn’t really go out of style.

I bolded a bit up there I’d like to address because it’s not necessarily true.

Since you’re framing this in terms of “patriarchy” and “feminism”, it’s important to keep in min that those are post-colonial and white concepts.

Like, first wave feminists got the IDEA of different relationships between the genders FROM Iroquois and other First Nations women. How do your words about “but we as a species haven’t had a very good track record" fit into that? There was life BEFORE patriarchy, and there will be life AFTER patriarchy. That shit was imported and imposed.

I mean, fuck, we’re talking barely even removed from living memory!!!!!

What about the large numbers of indigenous people in the world who are still technically “uncontacted”?  I think for them not ending up 90% dead from the flu is probably first order of business.

All I really mean by this is that

1. For some people the fight seems close to over enough that we start asking well “what now?”; for others it hasn’t begun yet.

2. Grouping humanity as a species is way too universalizing a statement; after all, the British Empire is responsible for the deed of the British Empire, and you can’t hold the rest of the world accountable for their crimes by saying “the track record of the HUMAN SPECIES” when talking about leveling the playing field.

Like, for sure my people executed some folks and had some wars, but we didn’t genocide a whole fucking continent.

I mean, you say the question comes from a “capitalist/colonial mindset”, but like…..you can’t just pretend everyone’s going to have the same perspective on that, especially when you want to say the “human species” is responsible for systematic inequality.

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Today in: I can’t believe people still ask me this

wrote-miss-ibis:

anagnori:

girljanitor:

There have been times in my life when I considered myself a feminist. I’ve been reading feminist literature since I was 11, and spent a good portion of my early teens and later stretches in my life in activist spaces, and over the years have come to reject just about every form of what is called “feminism”, because feminism was and is built to serve oppressive structures rather than dismantle them. It’s been a while since I’ve posted about it, so I suppose some of my followers are not getting the 100-level critiques of feminism that I’ve attempted to boil down into the following six points.

Feminism:

Appropriates from and erases women of color. For example, it’s common practice to grab a statistic about violence against women that only applies to women of color, paste it into a picture of a white woman, and when women of color protest, use words like “solidarity!” to silence them.

Creates a hierarchy of women according to ability. For example, it’s common to see Feminists sympathizing with caretakers and mothers who murder their disabled charges, even when both are women. Disabled women are erased and ignored by feminism, and it’s not uncommon to see “preventing disability” used as some kind of wedge to support abortion rights. “Racial purity” and Eugenics have been used by white feminists as a way to elicit support for birth control and abortion for centuries. Disabled women fail to meet the criteria of “real” women according to most feminists, and mostly serve as foils to feminist constructions of womanhood, rather than examples of it.

Homogenizes history to normalize a Eurocentric, Imperialist agenda. Liberal Feminism as well as Radical Feminism both ascribe to the tenet that “all women in the world are oppressed by men and always have been.” This is factually inaccurate and not only erases the First Wave feminists’ getting the idea for “feminism” from Iroquois women in the first place, it imposes a universal standard of European patriarchy as a starting point in many cases where it is completely irrelevant and benefits no one except white women. Feminism also has a long and storied history of colonizing behavior such as missionary work, religious conversion, and uplifting white womanhood as a “savior” at the expense of people of color.

Excludes and perpetrates violence against transgender women. Even branches of feminism that do not outright call for the extermination of transgender women exclude them from ‘women only’ spaces, deny them resources like space in shelters, and in many other ways actively participate in their marginalization, abuse, and deaths.

Promotes biological essentialism and polices women’s bodies. I honestly do not see a difference in the debates between feminists on whether or not a woman should shave her legs and the same dang discussion between men. The idea that a small group of privileged women should decide what women are and aren’t allowed to do with their bodies is no more appealing or “liberating” than a small group of privileged men deciding the same. Replicating patriarchy and enforcing kyriarchy by seeking to replace men as the gatekeepers of women’s bodies, sexualities, genders and activities is bullshit and helps no one.

Replaces inherent value of human beings with Capitalism. Feminism is just as guilty of devaluing “women’s work” as any patriarchal government or social structure; engaging in unpaid labor is seen as “unfeminist” and a moral failure on the part of women. The association of inherent worth with economic production is interlaced into the entire structure of feminism, and as a movement, feminism seems incapable of separating the two ideas. Harnessing the power of women as a labor force in order to “prove” their worth is a function of patriarchy and does nothing to undermine its functioning. Feminism is absolutely as guilty of equating “morally right” with “financially successful” as any other institution of our society.

Great post, sums up a lot of my reservations about feminism.

I’d also like to add that feminism, especially sex-positive feminism, does not address the concerns of celibate, asexual, and/or sex-repulsed women very well. Liberated female sexuality is often equated with being sexually active; if you do not like or want sex, then you are told that you are doing it wrong, are repressed by the patriarchy, are oppressed by your religion, or that you are otherwise a victim who needs help in order to realize her full sexuality. Sexual liberation is generally presented as the ability to say “yes” without being shamed; but the equally important ability to say “no” is usually forgotten, or shunted off into a separate discussion about rape culture. And asexual-spectrum women are frequently targeted by acephobia, ableism, and rape culture even from other women who consider themselves feminist.

As an asexual, celibate, sex-repulsed, partly-female person, feminism tells me that my sexuality is incomplete, unhealthy, repressed, or otherwise not good enough because I do not fit the archetype of a woman who wants and enjoys sex.

I still call myself an “intersectional feminist,” for lack of a better phrase when communicating my views to other people, but the movement’s got problems.

I could write a damn thesis on the intersection of sex-positivity and compulsory sexuality.

I could write a thesis on the intersection of sex positivity and hypersexualization of women of color…and another on certain schools of feminism’s demonization of sex workers that shits on WOC, and a third on the counter-movement of sex worker positivity and the subsequent erasure of sexual exploitation and forced prostitution that also shits on WOC….

Let’s just say there are far too many “movements” acting like they’re operating in a void and are allergic to intersectionality. It’s downright grotesque.

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What The Hell Is A “Tumblr Feminist?”

gradientlair:

I’m in my 30s. I was an adolescent in the 90s, reading The Color Purple by Alice Walker, listening to “Keep Ya Head Up" by Tupac and ”U.N.I.T.Y." by Queen Latifah and learning about womanism. I was already living at the intersection of race, gender and class oppression, dealing with intraracial sexism and misogynoir being called “god’s will” in the church I was required to attend and dealing with street harassment anytime I was not at school. I dealt with a few racist teachers in middle school and high school, and watched my parents struggle financially as I was growing up. I would have fun with my friends at school though there were endless issues of sexism, misogynoir, colourism, and fat shaming among the students. I dealt with boys making jokes about “virginity” and being sexually harassed both in the church (yep) and via street harassment. I dealt with learning hegemonic racist fuckery in my pre-IB and dual enrollment high school courses in middle school and AP courses and dual enrollment college courses in high school, all while enduring the microaggressions here and there from teachers who showed favor towards Whites, primarily the wealthy White Jewish students at my elite magnet high school. This is only a snippet of what was going on in my coming of age years in the 90s, long before social media existed as it exists now.

So when some little asshole of a 21 year old or so wants to decide that Tumblr, a site founded in 2007, is what made me a womanist or that I am a “Tumblr social justice warrior” or “Tumblr feminist” there are not enough 90s Timberland or Lugz boots that I can gather to plant square into their face. How can people be this ignorant? How does this work? The question is rhetorical of course as I most certainly know how from the experiences I’ve had before this site existed. Are people really this ignorant though? There’s a long history of public discourses about anti-oppression theories, whether it was Frederick Douglass' papers in the mid 19th century or Sojourner Truth's unforgettable speech, or Black writers during The Harlem Renaissance, or small Black-owned papers throughout the 20th century, to leaflets that Black people wouldn't want to ever get caught with in the South during Jim Crow, to the incredible spoken and written words during The Civil Rights Movement to Black women turning the Black feminist/womanist and fiction literary world on its head in the 70s through the 90s to Black people using social media today, creating movements and having an impact.

Now naturally, teeny tiny ahistorical White feewings get hurt when White supremacy seems like it is being challenged in any space. But these ahistorical little tyrants have got to learn that Google is their friend and Google Scholar is their very best friend. Research before making nonsensical labels that completely eschew history and embarrasses them.

Now I do talk about about the problems with White supremacy, racism, White privilege and mainstream feminism and make names for those particular problems. I and other people have made names such as: 1% feminism. White supremacist feminism. American exceptionalist feminism. Biological determinist feminism (i.e. TERFs). Mean Girls feminism. "Funny" feminism. Lean In feminism. Mrs. White feminism. I’ve said that I cannot take Jezebel seriously. They’re Pollution Feminism. Ubiquitous and problematic. April Fools Day Feminism. Beyond anti-intersectional. I call the appropriators and plagiarists PACMAN feminists as they consume (ahem…bell hooks “Eating The Other”) what Black women create without a second thought to our work, lives, feelings or anything except a “brand.” I’ve called it Mayonnaise Feminism. Use Black Women’s Backs As Bridges Feminism. No Identity For Themselves Feminism because of their actions such as cheering on Lily Allen, Miley Cyrus and Lena Dunham, all White women clearly harmful to Black women and proliferating cultural appropriation, racism and misogynoir. But all of these labels are about oppression, not confining White feminists to particular platform and critiquing these problems based on platform alone. Further, I have no White or class privilege to confine White women anywhere. They, not me, have the feminist blog or mainstream columns by age 22 and are panelists and board members by age 30. And no, I don’t want a seat at their table. Feminism is not solely about sitting at tables but dismantling walls and building bridges; about challenging the structures that make those tables so exclusive in the first place.

Now of course people can learn (by their own doing; not demanding others teach them) on any platform where ideas and information are available and exchanged. Tumblr is a place for that. Twitter is. People say Facebook is but since I hate that site I reject that premise, but I am sure it actually is in some parts. These are just platforms though. They do not shape who people are. And just as much ignorance abounds in these platforms as any others. There were feminists in 2006 yet I don’t recall them being called “Myspace feminists.” I don’t know any other place (except Twitter now, but for the longest it seemed like only Tumblr) where people associate something as complex as Black feminism or womanism or even mainstream feminism solely with the platform by which the ideas were spread. I mean…would the Combahee River Collective be “Yellow Pages, landline phone and published book feminism?” People cannot continue to be this ignorant.

Despite the fact that some of the most insightful, intricate, intersectional and revolutionary stuff is coming from blogs on platforms like Tumblr (hence literally every woman of colour that I know who has a blog here is regularly plagiarized), people throw around “Tumblr feminist” as a way to delegitimize those of us who are not welcome in the mainstream or had to fight tooth and nail to appear there. There’s definitely a hint of classism and credentialism involved in disregarding someone’s work based on what space it appears in, behavior that people’s favorite White Knight Tim Wise engaged in as well, which would be antithetical to actually being an ally. 

I’m interested in the most ignored, the most plagiarized and the most marginalized having a voice, wherever that occurs, in tweets or blogs that are simultaneously disrespected as they are consumed and plagiarized. Nobody is a “Tumblr feminist.” 

Related Post: On Being A “Social Justice Warrior”Plagiarism Within The Tumblr Community

"Feminism is supposed to be about equality and women being able to make their own choices. Yet, when famous Black women make choices that are best for their lives, there’s never any shortage of concern-trolling from people who don’t have to live with those choices. We talk a lot about patriarchy and paternalism, but we rarely speak of the way many feminists feel entitled to tell Black women what they should be doing. The maternalistic tone taken by many white feminists and even other feminists of color toward Black women is rarely seen as problematic. When we talk about solidarity inside the feminist movement, we have to talk about differences not just in oppression, but also in goals. For Black women, our struggle is not necessarily about access to the workplace; Black women have always had to work in America. Our struggle is to be recognized as human beings. To have our choices be treated with the same respect offered to anyone else. Whether we’re talking about Michelle Obama, Beyonce, or just the average woman on the street, the reality is that some feminists have children, and their decisions aren’t any less feminist because they are done in the best interests of those children. In fact, as feminism has never mastered being all things to all people, the reality is that no one is in a position to decide for another woman what kind of work she should do, how she should engage with her family, or even which of her choices represent the ‘right’ kind of feminism."

Mikki Kendall (@Karnythia)

A quote from her incredible article on RH Reality CheckFor Black Women, Everything Is a Feminist Issue. Part of it is a response to the Politico article that called Michelle Obama a “feminist nightmare.” Yeesh. The racism in feminism remains and she deconstructed it well in this article. Motherhood for Black women MATTERS and if Black women are going to be praised when raising White children (you know, what happened for centuries and still does; many White feminists have women of colour as their nannies as they admonish Michelle Obama for mothering her own children) and shamed when raising their own, then we’re talking about White supremacy, not any movement that can empower Black women. Read this whole article!

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Today in: I can’t believe people still ask me this

There have been times in my life when I considered myself a feminist. I’ve been reading feminist literature since I was 11, and spent a good portion of my early teens and later stretches in my life in activist spaces, and over the years have come to reject just about every form of what is called “feminism”, because feminism was and is built to serve oppressive structures rather than dismantle them. It’s been a while since I’ve posted about it, so I suppose some of my followers are not getting the 100-level critiques of feminism that I’ve attempted to boil down into the following six points.

Feminism:

Appropriates from and erases women of color. For example, it’s common practice to grab a statistic about violence against women that only applies to women of color, paste it into a picture of a white woman, and when women of color protest, use words like “solidarity!” to silence them.

Creates a hierarchy of women according to ability. For example, it’s common to see Feminists sympathizing with caretakers and mothers who murder their disabled charges, even when both are women. Disabled women are erased and ignored by feminism, and it’s not uncommon to see “preventing disability” used as some kind of wedge to support abortion rights. “Racial purity” and Eugenics have been used by white feminists as a way to elicit support for birth control and abortion for centuries. Disabled women fail to meet the criteria of “real” women according to most feminists, and mostly serve as foils to feminist constructions of womanhood, rather than examples of it.

Homogenizes history to normalize a Eurocentric, Imperialist agenda. Liberal Feminism as well as Radical Feminism both ascribe to the tenet that “all women in the world are oppressed by men and always have been.” This is factually inaccurate and not only erases the First Wave feminists’ getting the idea for “feminism” from Iroquois women in the first place, it imposes a universal standard of European patriarchy as a starting point in many cases where it is completely irrelevant and benefits no one except white women. Feminism also has a long and storied history of colonizing behavior such as missionary work, religious conversion, and uplifting white womanhood as a “savior” at the expense of people of color.

Excludes and perpetrates violence against transgender women. Even branches of feminism that do not outright call for the extermination of transgender women exclude them from ‘women only’ spaces, deny them resources like space in shelters, and in many other ways actively participate in their marginalization, abuse, and deaths.

Promotes biological essentialism and polices women’s bodies. I honestly do not see a difference in the debates between feminists on whether or not a woman should shave her legs and the same dang discussion between men. The idea that a small group of privileged women should decide what women are and aren’t allowed to do with their bodies is no more appealing or “liberating” than a small group of privileged men deciding the same. Replicating patriarchy and enforcing kyriarchy by seeking to replace men as the gatekeepers of women’s bodies, sexualities, genders and activities is bullshit and helps no one.

Replaces inherent value of human beings with Capitalism. Feminism is just as guilty of devaluing “women’s work” as any patriarchal government or social structure; engaging in unpaid labor is seen as “unfeminist” and a moral failure on the part of women. The association of inherent worth with economic production is interlaced into the entire structure of feminism, and as a movement, feminism seems incapable of separating the two ideas. Harnessing the power of women as a labor force in order to “prove” their worth is a function of patriarchy and does nothing to undermine its functioning. Feminism is absolutely as guilty of equating “morally right” with “financially successful” as any other institution of our society.

dthemod:

"I’m a feminist, but I think you all need to shut up now and stop complaining, you have enough!"

- Actual thing a dude has said to me

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macabreweirdo:

hauntistic:

teacakes:

feminists who don’t know the difference between sex and gender, refuse to acknowledge trans* and non-binary identities, and equate women’s rights with having a vagina while proclaiming women are anything but their genitals, are not feminists

Um, sorry but no. They ARE feminists, they just so happen to be terrible people as well as feminists.

Feminism as a whole could REALLY benefit from learning how to acknowledge its bad sides and work on rectifying them instead of blame-shifting through endless games of No True Scotsman.

Feminists who believe that shitty feminists aren’t feminists are like if someone was walking a poodle down the street and I was walking a poodle and their poodle shit on the street and I proclaimed loudly “THAT’S NOT A POODLE! POODLES DON’T SHIT ON THE STREET!”. Just because I went about shouting that doesn’t make the dog that shit on the street NOT a poodle.

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