cyberfawn:

I’m all for women’s rights and stuff but like some people take it too far idk like obviously there are things that we need to work on as a society and there’s a whole lot wrong with societies views of women and the way we are expected to act but like a 12 year old girl was shot in the face for trying to go to school in Afghanistan?? idk in America we have it pretty good I guess I feel like a lot of the time ppl are just looking for something to complain about

I would like to show you how ass-ignorant you are right now.

Remember when a 7 year old girl IN AMERICA WAS LIT ON FIRE AND SHOT BY THE POLICE FOR EXISTING???

Or when Tanya McDowell, a Black single mother sent her child to a school outside her district  in hopes of getting the child a better education, received a 5 year prison sentence?????

Remember when Joe Arpaio is too busy forcing women to give birth in CHAINS to even both to investigate OVER 400 RAPES in his jurisdiction?

Or when the number of women in poverty are at an all-time historic high RIGHT NOW?

And that women of color are TWICE as likely to be poor as white women?

Or when the Scott sisters received life sentences for stealing $11 as teens?

Or when Marissa Alexander was sentenced to 20 years for firing a warning shot from a gun she legally owned at her abuser who was threatening to kill her, 9 days after giving birth?

Or when CeCe McDonald was put into prison for DEFENDING HERSELF AGAINST A NEO-NAZI TRYING TO KILL HER?

Or when South Carolina sterilized over 7,000 people, mostly Black women?

Or when Regina McKnight, Laura Pemberton, Rachel Lowe, Martina Greywind, Michelle Marie Greenup, and countless other women have been thrown in jail for being PREGNANT?

BUT YEAH WOMEN IN AMERICA HAVE IT PRETTY GOOD, RIGHT?

SHUT UP WITH YOU WHITE SAVIOR BULLSHIT AND CLEAN UP YOUR OWN FUCKING HOUSE BEFORE YOU START FUCKING AROUND IN OTHER PEOPLE’S HOUSES.

I don’t know what to do

nitroglycerin-trucks:

My brain has been having attacks for the past four days in a row.  This is always between 3 and 6 PM, it always lasts about an hour+, and recovery always takes about an hour-.

This has never happened four days in a row before.  This is usually rare.

It is entirely neurological.  I am not epileptic.  I am diagnosed with a seizure disorder that is not epileptic, and it is connected to these attacks but they are more than the seizures.

There is no danger to anyone but myself, mentally, when these occur.

If I tell doctors about this, any doctors, they will pressure me to abort so I can take drugs and/or call my procreation a disease and pressure me to abort — I don’t think every addiction is detrimental or a disease; it’s a matter of how they’re managed — or they’ll just pressure me to abort because CRAZY WOMAN ???   A MOTHER ?????  OH NO REPRODUCE NO BAD MORE CRAZY PEOPLE BAD MOTHER WHAT ARE THESE KINDS OF SITUATIONS AND WHAT DO

I’m so sick of being pressured to abort.  IT HAPPENS EVERY TIME, I don’t need to “give” more incentive for it.  But I don’t want my brain to go out on me into the summer!  That surely would leave permanent damage!

I’m really sorry this is going on. Have you been checked for things like high blood pressure and stuff? <3 and hugs to you!!! seriously!!!!

(Source: mommy-cuteella)

karnythia:

fozmeadows:

misandristqueen:

Obstetric Lie #81 - An Episiotomy is Better than a Tear

heartandsoulmidwifery:

birthculture:

“Isn’t it simply mind boggling that somebody would say that an episiotomy (a cut, with scissors) into a mother’s vagina is BETTER than a natural tear?  Who made that up?  Obviously not somebody who has actually HAD their vagina cut with scissors. 

Oh, but people DO say it.  “A straight cut is better than a jagged tear.”  “An episiotomy is so much easier to stitch up than a tear.”  “Babies are so big, you are going to tear anyway, might as well make it faster.” 

Ahh….to be a woman in this day and age and to accept so readily the inevitability of our own body’s failure.  Well, I for one don’t accept it.  It defies logic to say that it is better to cut a stretchable part of the body than to simply let it tear (or even better- NOT TEAR!  Yes, this too can happen!)”

This brings up something. Last year we we’re learning how to sew an episiotomy wound, because as future midwives we have to know how to do it.

The professor who was with us used the same words: An episiotomy is better than a tear.

We were practicing on models, and when I finished with my work, I called the professor (who is also a doctor and works in the delivery room) to see if I did well.

 She looked at it and said: Well, it’s okay, but it doesn’t have to be so nice. We sew face wounds like that, and a vagina really doesn’t have to be sewed up so nice. 

I almost threw up there. How can a doctor say something like that? How can any kind - not only vaginal wound be sewed up too nice?

I had a lot of patients, and only some of them had an episiotomy, but it was really necessary and they all agreed with it. And none of my patients, who didn’t have an episiotomy, had a tear. None. 

Makes me want to go there, find that doctor and scream at her. 

This is kind of weird to hear; as someone currently 8 months pregnant, I’ve been told over and over by midwives - and have read in both baby books and parenting websites - that tearing is demonstrably better than an episiotomy, because a sharp cut won’t heal as easily. Is it possible this is a dissonance between American practice and practice elsewhere? Antenatal care in the UK is both free and heavily midwife-lead: all my regular checks have been conducted by midwives, the standard antenatal classes have been lead by midwives, I’ll be primarily cared for by midwives during labour, and once the kidlet is born, a midwife will visit me at home to make sure I’m coping, that the baby is well and that I’m not struggling to breastfeed. A doctor will probably be involved at some point during the actual birth, but in all probability, they won’t be my primary physician unless something goes wrong (which I obviously hope it doesn’t). But the point being, according to every single resource I’ve encountered thus far - all of which have been produced in either the UK or Australia - tearing has been cited as preferable to episiotomy because of both the reduced healing time and the fact that less damage is always better than more. So, yeah. Cultural differences within medicine, possibly? Or maybe I’ve just been surrounded by particularly good midwives.

The U.S. loves medical interventions for reasons that have nothing to do with health care. My first pregnancy was largely spent in Germany with a German OB & I had a huge culture shock when I came back to the U.S. Everything I had been told about pregnancy while I was abroad was rooted in it being a natural process requiring minimal intervention. Only in the U.S. was pregnancy a sickness that required treatment.

Re: your little poll and the child support discussion.

darkjez:

First, my sister and I were taken care of by my mother who gave up any chance of a career to homeschool us thru 8th grade because the public schools were shit; my dad worked 8-5, and she taught English at night on top of homeschooling us, and of course did all the cooking and cleaning as well. So yeah. The woman was indispensable. 

Second, when I told my ex that I was pregnant (this was months ago, and I miscarried at 11 weeks, so that’s over, don’t worry) his first move was to tell me his parents would get lawyers if I chose anything but abortion. Somehow, in our situation, I became the bitch who was out to screw him for child support (I wasn’t) while he, the rich, white, male with the free grad school and the fabulous job, was the one who was having his life ruined by a “cunt too selfish to get an abortion.” These aren’t just sentiments I received from him, they were expressed to me by people around us, and from places I went looking for advice.

This is how the dialogue around these things goes. If you are a woman, you can’t win. If you are a man, you can threaten your ex (who you supposedly loved?) with lawyers, refuse to have a civil discussion about the situation, cuss her out, etc…., and you are still the one being victimized. 

It seems to me that with the arrival of legalized abortion and choice, there has also a arrived a new way to shame women - if you are not financially stable/healthy/married and you choose to to have your child instead of abort, this makes you a scammer or a manipulating cunt, or irresponsible. This is why I side-eye men who are pro-choice, because I so often find that they are pro-choice because, in their eyes, it frees them from responsibility should the woman choose to keep the baby. Being pro-choice doesn’t stop men from being sexist, it just gives them a new way to be sexist. And this plays into child-support because in their eyes, because the woman could have aborted, she is a bitch for having a child when she “knew” she would need child support. My “pro-choice, feminist” ex told me that women have no business having children unless they have a partner and can afford to put their kids trough college, which makes this an issue of classism as well. 

So basically my ex can whine about child support while having an apt-full of fancy new furniture and trips to Tuscany  while that woman isn’t allowed to buy herself a pair of $60 boots. 

Nope.

Deliriously tired typing, so hopefully this is less rambly than I think it is. 

When I say I am pro-choice

I also mean I will fight for anyone’s choice to HAVE children as well as to not have them.

Anyone who shames someone for getting pregnant and/or choosing to have a baby can go straight to hell.

deluxvivens:

baddominicana:

thetart:

Off Duty Cop Pulls Gun On Pregnant Woman in Walmart Express Lane For Having Too Many Items In Cart, Accuses Them Of Being Welfare Recipients

beatyourselfup:

The Kendall County Sheriff’s Department has launched an internal investigation into an alleged incident involving an off-duty deputy pulling a gun on a pregnant woman in a Walmart express lane. Just one week from her due date, Nicole Thurmond said she feared for her life while checking out at a Walmart store in Oswego on a recent Sunday. “I felt someone close behind me. He started being really rude and said, ‘Don’t you know how to count? You are holding up the whole store,” Thurmond recalled. Thurmond said she didn’t know it at the time, but the man in plain clothes was off-duty deputy Craig French. Thurmond’s husband had been getting eggs at the time and said he could see his wife was upset when he returned to the checkout area. “There was a guy in her face, yelling at her,” said Jason Thurmond. “In an aggressive manner he steps toward me, and I just push him back to keep him away from my wife and myself, and before I knew it I just froze because he pulled out a gun.” Jason Thurmond said the man didn’t show his badge, was “waving a gun in a store,” and at one point asked them if they were on welfare. “At one point I turned by back to him, because I was afraid if it did go off, at least it hits my backside and not in the front where my baby is,” said Nicole Thurmond. The couple said that only after he waved the gun did the man identify himself as a sheriff’s deputy. Jason Thurmond was arrested and charged with misdemeanor battery for the shove he admits he gave the deputy. The Thurmonds have since filed a formal complaint with the department. “I’m a big believer in karma. Someday he’ll be the one who can’t move very fast. He’ll see,” said the expectant mother. The Kendall County Sheriff’s Department said in a statement the incident is under an internal investigation to determine if the deputy’s actions “are consistent with the rules and regulations of the Sheriff’s Office.” The investigation is separate from any criminal investigation by Oswego Police, the department said in a statement.

So let’s get this straight: A woman enters the Walmart express lane with more items than the lane calls for. A cop behind her believes that mouthing off to her in front of her obviously enormous husband is a wise thing to do. Not willing to back down after he put his foot in his mouth, the cop decides to play Mr Tough Guy by pulling out his gun and waving it around everywhere, scaring people half to death. And who gets in trouble? The man defending his wife from this lunatic cop pointing guns at pregnant women. What. The Fuck. Is That?

black man + white cop = that is the USofA and gawd blessa murrika

more on how and why motherhood is NOT sacred when youre black. in fact its reviled. i have so many stories. feminists can fucking miss me.

um.

(Source: beatyourselfup, via mssswitch)