One manager at the apartment complex where I worked while in college told me, repeatedly, that she knew I was “Okay” because my little Nissan was clean. That I had worn a Jones of New York suit to the interview really sealed the deal. She could call the suit by name because she asked me about the label in the interview. Another hiring manager at my first professional job looked me up and down in the waiting room, cataloging my outfit, and later told me that she had decided I was too classy to be on the call center floor. I was hired as a trainer instead. The difference meant no shift work, greater prestige, better pay and a baseline salary for all my future employment.
I have about a half dozen other stories like this. What is remarkable is not that this happened. There is empirical evidence that women and people of color are judged by appearances differently and more harshly than are white men. What is remarkable is that these gatekeepers told me the story. They wanted me to know how I had properly signaled that I was not a typical black or a typical woman, two identities that in combination are almost always conflated with being poor.
The Logic of Stupid Poor People
More snippets from this article about why people in poverty buy expensive products that they “can’t afford”. When it comes to upward mobility and standards of living, being able to own and wear status markers makes a HUGE difference.
"Q: How many male novelists does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
A: He lit a cigarette. His glass of whiskey lit a cigarette too. “I can only truly love my best friend,” he said, “but not in a gay way. Women wouldn’t understand it. They’re too gay.” Both of the cigarettes agreed."
Male Novelist Jokes (via The Toast)
click the link
source for the thing I reblogged earlier!
NEVER OVER “The terrible sex had made him feel deeply interesting, like a murder victim.”
OH MY GOD SERIOUSLY CLICK THE LINK
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how come women are seen as overreactive to dumb things when men literally need FOR MEN written on soap before they can use it
i don’t think it is accdiental that we mostly see gender essentialists invoking the socialization myth.
there is a reason for this.
patriarchy has but one message:
men are gold and women worthless
and we are all socialized to believe this is true.
It always surprises me how difficult it is for some people to SEE these messages. And also, how people are like “but it’s everywhere, so it can’t be true!”
And I’m like
how do boys look good without makeup
#you’re socialized to accept faults in our skin
thats it. thats literally it. entirely. for serious though
One of the realest things i’ve ever read. I think about this all the damn time.
"When men say that they “love to see the woman underneath the makeup,” they’re not saying they want to see your leg stubble and greasy bangs—they’re saying they want you to be better at hiding your maintenance routine. Because the maintenance spoils the fantasy."
-Lindy West (via fourstorytantrum)
Every time one of my guy friends says they prefer women without makeup I give them the hardest fucking side-eye. Like, I definitely don’t really mind either way but, I’m pretty sure some of these dudes has scarcely seen a woman without makeup.
"[F]or the first several years the SAT was offered, males scored higher than females on the Math section but females achieved higher scores on the Verbal section. ETS policy-makers determined that the Verbal test needed to be “balanced” more in favor of males, and added questions pertaining to politics, business and sports to the Verbal portion. Since that time, males have outscored females on both the Math and Verbal sections. Dwyer notes that no similar effort has been made to “balance” the Math section, and concludes that, “It could be done, but it has not been, and I believe that probably an unconscious form of sexism underlies this pattern. When females show the superior performance, ‘balancing’ is required; when males show the superior performance, no adjustments are necessary.” "
“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org
And then people urge me everything is fine, of course it is, when you’re ignoring statistics that is.
These kind of things piss me off. When I was younger I did an almost perfect score on a word test, only one error, but I didn’t get top grades. My teacher told me that had I been a man, I would have.
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This is Biologist Dr Danielle N. Lee also known as the Urban Scientist at Scientific American, she “draws from hip hop culture to share science with general audiences, particularly under-served groups.” Biology-Online liked her work so much they wanted her to write for them……for free. Danielle Lee politely declined so Biology-Online did what everyone does when women say no - they called her a “Whore”. Here are the screengrabs of the emails.
As if it couldn’t get any worse, Danielle wrote about her experiences on Scientific American and Scientific American took it down. They censured her voice and took away her ability to speak out about the injustices she faced as a female science writer. Fortunately you can still read her article as it has been reprinted here. And she has made this Youtube Video about her experiences
Source: Buzzfeed Isis the Scientist